Rules of dating after a divorce
If you have qualms about dating, it’s not the right time.
After fifteen years with the same man, ten years of marriage and two kids, I now find myself single at 42 years old. My husband and I separated last summer but lived in the same house until I move into my own apartment last month. There are still some people who don’t know my husband and I are in the process of divorcing.
I’m not dating anyone (yet) but if and when I do, there’s no reason why they need to meet my children or anyone in my family unless it becomes serious.
But I don’t even know how to get to the point where I’m dating someone.
“Even very reasonable and civilized people can find unexpected, hard-to-manage emotions popping up at the most inconvenient times, particularly during the early months of a separation and divorce,” caution divorce experts Pauline Tesler and Peggy Thompson in their book, .
“Recovering from the shock of a failed marriage involves moving through that initial period of diminished capacity, until gradually, more and more of the time, your pre-divorce ‘best self’ is back at the helm.” For most people, this Once you do feel ready to date again, do yourself a favor and read this spot-on blog article called “Low-stakes First Dates,” which says that the key to avoiding a tangled web of confusion and dejection is to stop betting everything on the first date.